Wednesday, February 18, 2015

Her Life, Her Choice



Her Life, Her Choice

Who are we to judge? 

As a society, we do not let women choose what they want to do, be it education, marriage or career. Parents, spouse or In-laws take decisions for us. It may be true for guys as well but definitely not as strong as in case of daughters. Luckily for the women born after 1980’s, things are better. We were allowed to go to schools, colleges and pursue a career, but which school, which degree and whom we should marry are predominantly family decisions and not personal choices. I think, parents have to play dominant role till the age of 16, and beyond that, they just need to guide and not take decisions on girl’s behalf.

Aren't women capable of deciding on their own? Why someone has to tell an educated and financially independent woman what she should do about her life, when to get married, when to bear children? Why should one interfere in her decisions of spouse, career, and motherhood? Why everyone has an opinion, when it comes to woman, how she should be, or to keep it simple, how a wife should be?  Polite, kind, smiling, caring, loving, obedient, submissive, patient, soft etc., and the list of physical features endless. Thanks to Mr. Chanakya for his contribution to this list. But, do we have similar rule-book for the other gender? May be there are, but not at same level. I can think of only one judgement against men,“Don’t cry like a woman” and yeah, in some families, women are not even allowed to cry as they believe woman’s tears bring bad fortune to the family. Does it mean, women in such family are treated like princesses? Nope, if they believe such sayings, they would also believe other superstitions against women, right? 

From smile to dressing style, there are predefined rules for women. If we do not follow them, we are judged, labled. And yes, these judgments are not from men always. Surprisingly, many women criticize other woman’s career & personal choices.



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  2. His money his choice. Because he earned hardly. Men not getting any thing free. It should not be her choice.

    Why man only should pay for every thing?

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