On a lazy Sunday morning, first thing I read is this case where a Court considers 'Marriage' between rape victim and her rapist, a "Happy Conclusion"!! How can a woman be ordered / requested / convinced to marry a man who sedated her, pounced on her like an animal, attacked her parents and denied any involvement until DNA report of his daughter confirmed it!!?? Is the judge helping the victim or punishing her for bringing it to courts? Isn't it a license for him to abuse her for her entire life?
The case is about a woman, now in her 20s from a remote village, who was raped by a man 6 years ago 2 days before her SSC exams. She also had a 6 yr old daughter out of this rape. She has fought in courts for justice, and is still fighting for her dignity in society. Court proposed Marriage!! She neither agreed to marry her rapist nor accept any money in compensation, despite her poor financial status!! His place is behind the bars, not in her house. Kudos to her spirits!! She didn't give up, she is going to tell her daughter that her father is a rapist. I agree, family with mom and dad is good for any child, but not a Rapist Father, he is more harm to her daughter!! I love this woman for her stand.
She is truly an inspiration to many highly educated stalwarts of our society.
As long as we see MARRIAGE as a solution to a CRIME of rape, we wouldn't see MARITAL Rape as a CRIME.
Suppose, if a woman meets with an accident because the other vehicle driver was drunk, and gets seriously wounded, we would sympathize with her & her family but if same woman is raped by another drunk/sober man, we blame her. We scar her. We boycott her & her family. We look at Rape as Loss of Dignity of Woman, it is not considered as wound to her body, but a scar on her character. She would become unfit for marriage and unsuitable company of her friends/cousins!! One heinous act ruins her complete life!In almost all the cases, a woman is blamed atleast partially - for being provactive, for not being alert or for being out at odd timings!! When we make victim part of the crime, a Rape case would become more of a conflict between two individuals and less of a crime committed by one single party. With such understanding of rape, marriage would seem amicable solution.
If forced sex is precursor for marriage, forced sex would be always an OKAY in a marriage, and many women suffer silently!!
She is truly an inspiration to many highly educated stalwarts of our society.
As long as we see MARRIAGE as a solution to a CRIME of rape, we wouldn't see MARITAL Rape as a CRIME.
Suppose, if a woman meets with an accident because the other vehicle driver was drunk, and gets seriously wounded, we would sympathize with her & her family but if same woman is raped by another drunk/sober man, we blame her. We scar her. We boycott her & her family. We look at Rape as Loss of Dignity of Woman, it is not considered as wound to her body, but a scar on her character. She would become unfit for marriage and unsuitable company of her friends/cousins!! One heinous act ruins her complete life!In almost all the cases, a woman is blamed atleast partially - for being provactive, for not being alert or for being out at odd timings!! When we make victim part of the crime, a Rape case would become more of a conflict between two individuals and less of a crime committed by one single party. With such understanding of rape, marriage would seem amicable solution.
If forced sex is precursor for marriage, forced sex would be always an OKAY in a marriage, and many women suffer silently!!
