Monday, March 16, 2015

It is not always her fault....



It is not her fault if she gets raped by few morons in a moving bus at 9:00 in the night

It is not her fault if her trusted friend takes an advantage of her drunken state

It is not her fault if a retarded throws acid at her for rejecting his proposal

It is not her fault if she is tricked by her 1st standard teacher to lift her skirts up


It is not her fault if her heart urges to see her parents and siblings, after marriage

It is not her fault if she gets mocked in her new house for not bringing enough gifts

It is not her fault if she gets raped in her own house every night

It is not her fault if she is slapped because he didn't like the food she prepared

It is not her fault if her partner divorces her alone with three children, for another woman


It is not her fault if she can never bear a child for health reasons

It is not her fault if her children have poor manners or bad grades at school

It is not her fault if her daughter chooses to marry someone outside their religion


It is not her fault if many prospective grooms reject her in search of beauty or money

It is not her fault if she is killed in the dark because they were expecting HIM



I am tired of reading media articles in newspapers about assaults on women outside the house, in which a woman is blamed for her dress, for being out or for her naive attitude... I am also tired of listening to family & neighborhood daily anecdotes, where a woman is blamed for marital conflicts, her husband's extra marital affairs, her children's ill-manners, her own health conditions..... There is always a line between victim and culprit, but when it comes to a misfortune in a woman's life, on roads or inside her own house, we conveniently breach the line and make her part of the crime itself. When she needs our empathy, we raise our eye brows...
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Tuesday, March 3, 2015

If you are a good girl, you have to be at home doing housework : says Delhi Gang rape convict

Entire world said, "It is the most brutal attack on a woman", but even after three years, one of the convicts of Nirbhaya Delhi bus rape, Mukesh Singh, showed no remorse and he blames the woman for the assault.

Some of his comments in prison interview to BBC were :
 - A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy
 - When being raped, she shouldn't fight back. She should just be silent and allow the rape
 - A decent girl won't roam around 9:00 at night. 
 - Boy and girl are not equal. Housework and housekeeping is for girls.
 - The death penalty will make things worse because now they will kill the girl after raping her

Unfortunately, even the well educated ones, his lawyers put blame on the victim. His lawyer,AP Singh said:

"If my daughter or sister engaged in pre-marital activities and disgraced herself and allowed herself to lose face and character by doing such things, I would most certainly take this sort of sister or daughter to my farmhouse, and in front of my entire family, I would put petrol on her and set her alight."

Another defence lawyer, ML Sharma said,

"In our society, we never allow our girls to come out from the house after 6:30 or 7.30 or 8.30 in the evening with any unknown person."

Our families are careful to not send girls out alone because these notions from society made it unsafe. If you found a girl outside at night, it doesn't mean you can do anything to her and it is justified. More than comments of the bus driver, the words of his lawyers hurt me. When some of the elite men of society still think women are to be blamed for the rapes, how safe is our country for women? What value did education add to these morons? Why no law punishes them when they make such stupid remarks against women? Is our judiciary system so stupid to allow defense lawyers talk any rubbish to save their most brutal client?

This appalling attitude of some men towards women is the main reason for attacks against women.


When would we start teaching men the right manners and stop blaming women for  eve teasing, rape, murder, domestic violence, divorce?

Source of the mentioned comments by convicted and his lawyers : http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/asia/india/11443462/Delhi-bus-rapist-blames-his-victim-in-prison-interview.html
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